I have noticed, by emails that I receive, that most of you are concern about the pain that follows losing virginity. Some girls are very frightened. There is, also, significant number of boys with virgin girlfriends worrying how not to hurt them when they make love for the first time.

It is very natural that you are afraid of something that you haven’t done before. You don’t have to lose virginity but it is the only way to start your adult sexual life. Like I said before it has to be your own decision based on your needs and personal development.  Do it in your one time. First sexual experience is not the same for everybody. It can look very dramatic with bleeding and all but not all of the girls are experiencing the pain while they make love for the first time.

I hope that you all know what the hymen is but I will tell you anyway. The hymen is a membrane that surrounds or partially covers the external vaginal opening. It forms part of the vulva, or external genitalia.

Not all the hymens are created equal, their shape and elasticity can vary so that is one of the reasons that act of losing virginity is so different for the different girls. Unfortunately you cannot know how it will be for you till you actually try it.

So when you know that you are ready and you are contemplating how to lose virginity this is how you can prepare yourself:

I know it’s hard by try to relax. I am sure the experience is more unpleasant if there is unnecessary tension so make sure you have a caring and loving partner.

Use condom together with water based lubricant.  Oil based lubricants can damage the condom.

Make sure that you are in control of the whole process of the penetration so you find adequate position. You can be on top for instance or back on your knees.

So basically these are three things that you can do to reduce discomfort that may or may not be in your way to your first full sexual experience. Good luck and I hope you will enjoy it.

Lisa W.

lisa@howtolosevirginity.com

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Recently I have found very interesting statistic. Only in US there are 1.1 million people between 26 and 40 years old that haven’t lost their virginity yet.  I don’t know what percentage of those are man but let’s say it’s 50. Maybe this data isn’t accurate, it is questionable if people where honest answering questioners or whatever. There can be twice more.  What seems to be wrong with you?

I think that fear of pain and pregnancy can be ruled out like the reasons that men 26-40 years old are still wondering how to lose virginity. I think that in 90 presents of the cases reason is social inadequacy, inability to find sexual partner. Fear of approaching women than can repress one of our strongest biological urges.

Who is to blame?  Well I think I know the answer.  Do you know when the old people are saying: back in the days when men were men and women were women?  Yes, as you know in the earlier cultures there was the process ritual of initiation when the boys and girls were becoming adults. I don’t say that we need to return those days back but that man in our society are getting old but don’t get mature. Manhood is in crisis, unfortunately and now we have 40 years old men with issue of losing virginity.

Their fathers have taught them how to fix cars or how to catch a ball but almost newer how to get a girlfriend. Like I said in previous text you are not one of the naturals but luckily you can learn. It is never too late to stop being a boy and become functioning adult.  It won’t be easy but it is something you just got to do. You have to escape secure place of your boyhood and except downsides of manhood so you can get the good things too.

I will teach you how to develop your personality and your psychology in that direction. I will teach you techniques to do it easier and how to get girls in the process. It is time to lose virginity. Get ready to grow old.

Lisa W.

lisa@howtolosevirginity.com

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So you just can’t get the girl and get rid of your virginity. Obviously you are not one of the so called naturals guys who seduce girls without  trying. Your father also haven’t teached you anything about this secret art, probably he is not Casanova himself.  Luckily you are here.

Till this day you have been doing something wrong. Otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this article right now. On the other publications they will give you advice to go to clubs and other public spaces and eventually you will meet a girl. You know how useful it was to you and how many times you have returned home alone from the club and losing virginity seemed years away.

In order to do the right things you will have to change yourself. We will teach you how to do it for the better. From things like physical appearance to more complex issues like how to overcome your fear from talking to girls. You will learn how to become proper lady killer, things that will be useful to you even after you lose virginity. Your subconscious is your main enemy here and we will find the way to bypass it together.

In the meantime while you are contemplating how to lose virginity I’ll give you a little piece of advice. Treat girls like equals, not the way you use to and they will respect you. Every day they listen how beautiful they are (even if they are not) and someone is willing to do something for them.  Don’t be one of those guys who are throwing compliments and attention and maybe some secrets of pick up art will come to you on their one. 

Lisa W.

lisa@howtolosevirginity.com

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Hi there again,

There is another important topic that is bothering some of you. I have received lot of emails and there is lot of girls on forums that are so afraid of getting pregnant that they are paralyzed of fear when it comes to sex. It seems that this is one of main reasons while many of you start your sexual life relatively late and still wondering how to lose virginity. It is a real shame because sexuality is real important part of all our lives. 

Few weeks ago I have answered question that went something like this: 

Last night I have been fooling around with my boyfriend. I was dressed and he was naked. Some of his pre-cum accidentally ended on my jeans on the groin area.  I took morning after pill. I got my period a day late and it was lighter than usually. Could I still be pregnant? 

Obviously you got a lot to learn about contraception so you can relax and not to wait for your next period in panic. 

There are many methods of birth control like implants, diaphragm, pills, but for you beginners that wonder what to use while losing virginity I will recommend only one and that is condom. Statistics says that it is 98% secure. Make sure that you use quality, electronically tested condoms with spermicidal lubricant. Check the expire date, don’t carry it in a jeans pocket or expose it to sunlight or heat. Also you can use additional spermicidal lubricant but make sure it is water based so it wouldn’t damage the condom. Don’t ever put on more than one because it is more likely to break if there are more of them on the penis at the same time. I don’t suppose you will have sex so rough when you lose virginity so you shouldn’t be worrying that it will break. 

It doesn’t hurt to be careful while your foreplay. Read my previous post where I wrote about pre-ejaculatory fluid. If you accidentally try to put the condom the wrong way trough it away and use another one.  Its tip may be contaminated with sperm from pre-cum. 

I am sure if you do all of this right that you security is higher than 98%.  So try to relax and enjoy yourself.  

 Sincerely Yours,

Lisa W. 

 

lisa@howtolosevirginity.com

 

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Hi guys, 

As I’ve been working on my new book I discovered that many of you start your sexual life totally unprepared.  There is much false information out there circulating among you still, even in this age of information. Many dangerous urban myths about losing virginity that can ruin your life. 

I have answered many questions similar to this one: 

I lost my virginity last night. I didn’t plan to but one thing led to another, we were fooling around, had some beers and it just happened. It hurt a little bit, but we didn’t use any protection. He finished outside. Could I be pregnant? My friend told me that I can’t conceive if it was my first time. Please help me I am scared.

If you could only know how many times I have seen letters like this.

For once and for all please try to remember. You could get pregnant from any unprotected sex. Coitus interruptus, also known as withdrawal or the pull-out method, is the most unsafe one and you shouldn’t be using it. Pre-ejaculatory fluid, which you also call pre-cum, that comes out of the penis can contain significant amount of sperm. Especially if a man had sex or masturbated recently. Avoid contact with it around your vaginal area. If it is your first time you aren’t miraculously protected. Remember this!

Also, please don’t forget the STD’s. It would be a real shame that you lose virginity and get something bad in return. So please be smart and use protection. If you are thinking about how to lose virginity at least carry the condom around with you. It is not that heavy.

I know how your hormones can make you do foolish thinks and that in the moment of passion some of you just don’t think rationally. If you girls had unprotected sex please visit you gynecologist. Talk to your mom even if it’s hard. Many of teenage pregnancies wouldn’t happen if only you have talked to your moms.

So please be smart.

Write to you soon.

Sincerely Yours,

Lisa W.

 

lisa@howtolosevirginity.com

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Hi Virgins!

So you think you are ready for the big day? Thank god you ran in to me. 

My name is Lisa. I am 37 and mother of two. When I was younger, just like you, I was pretty clueless when it comes to love and sex. I lost my virginity relatively late by today’s standards. It was in college and I don’t regret that I have been waiting for the right guy to sleep with for the firs time. I was afraid of many things: will it hurt, will I get pregnant, how it will effected on me, and so and so. Today my older child is entering her puberty and I have noticed that she and her friends where clueless too, even more that I was once. 

You, virgins of the 21st century are exposed to more bad influences and wrong informations than any generation before you. On the other hand, obviously, there is not nearly enough educational materials on the Internet to answers all your questions and make your worries easier. I have decided to help you and teach you all the things you need to know. Things that nobody told me when I was a young girl. 

Whether you are a boy or a girl, you can even be older than me, here you will learn all that interest you about your first sexual experience and finally how to lose your virginity. 

 

ON THIS SITE YOU WILL NOT FIND ANY PORNOGRAPHY! 

Sex is its main topic, as something natural that every man needs. But this is an educational material. And it is intended for all of you with lack of experience no matter how old are you. 

I know, you must be afraid, or at least worried about losing your virginity. Don’t be. 

Everything will be just fine. You will learn safe ways to begin your successful sexual life. Maybe you don’t even have a partner. I will teach you some basic seduction techniques. You got boyfriend, or a girlfriend, but don’t know how to kiss even. Don’t worry, you will learn soon enough.

Together with my associates, I’m working on a e-book that will help you all, whether you are a boy or a girl, man or women, straight or gay.

 

If you wanna be first to know when it’s finished, please write to me on a following e-mail address. Your contact details are completely safe with me.

Sincerely Yours,

Lisa W.

 

lisa@howtolosevirginity.com

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